Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old
The prompt
“How would you describe jealousy, without judging yourself for feeling it?”
What to listen for
An honest, unashamed answer shows they're learning that jealousy is just a normal human feeling, not a character flaw, that's a healthy relationship with a hard emotion, and your job is to nod along, not moralize about it.
If they mention a specific situation, resist jumping to reassure them out of the feeling too quickly, sometimes people just need the feeling acknowledged before it can pass on its own.
If they seem embarrassed to even bring it up, that's worth gently normalizing, you might mention that everyone feels it sometimes, without needing them to share more than they want to.
What this tells you
How comfortably they can talk about jealousy shows you whether they feel safe having messy, human feelings around you without being judged for them.