Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old

The prompt

“Was there a moment you chose to do the honest thing even though the easy thing was right there?”

What to listen for

A specific story here is a real gift, it shows they have a working moral compass that holds up under real pressure, not just in theory. Give this real, specific praise rather than a general "good job."

If the story involves a cost to them, like losing an easier outcome or disappointing someone, acknowledge how hard that actually was rather than glossing over it.

If nothing comes to mind, that's fine, you might mention you're not looking for a perfect answer, just wondering if anything came up recently.

What this tells you

This story shows you their integrity is developing into something real and tested, not just something they've been told to have.