Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old
The prompt
“What do you think is unique about how our family handles hard times, compared to other families you've seen?”
What to listen for
A thoughtful comparison here shows they've been quietly observing how other families operate and forming real opinions about what works, take their observation seriously, whether it's flattering or a little critical.
If they name something positive, like everyone pitching in or being able to talk things through, let that land fully, it's a strong sign they feel secure in how this family handles pressure.
If they mention something you could do better, stay open rather than defensive, that kind of honesty is exactly what you want them to keep offering you as they get older.
What this tells you
Their comparison shows you how safe and supported they currently feel during hard times in this family, relative to what they've seen elsewhere.