Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old
The prompt
“What's a game or sport you actually love that I don't think I've ever really asked you about?”
What to listen for
If they go into detail unprompted, they've been wanting someone to ask, a sign they need their passions to be actively noticed, not just allowed to exist in the background.
If they seem surprised you're asking, that's worth sitting with, it may mean they've quietly assumed this part of their life isn't interesting to you.
A brief answer is still a real answer, the value tonight is in the asking, not in getting a long response.
What this tells you
How much detail they offer about something you've never asked about shows you how much they want to be truly known, not just managed.