Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old
The prompt
“Was there a moment recently where you felt like we were really on the same page, you and me?”
What to listen for
If they can point to something specific, they feel genuinely understood by you in that moment, not just managed or supervised, a real sign of trust between you.
If they hesitate or can't think of one, don't panic, just take it as useful information that connection has felt thin lately, and let that guide you toward more moments like this one.
A joking answer, like naming something silly you agreed on, still counts as real connection, don't discount it just because it's light.
What this tells you
Whether they can recall a moment of real alignment with you shows how connected they currently feel to you, not just co-existing.