Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old

The prompt

“What's something about how you see yourself that you think comes straight from being part of this family?”

What to listen for

A warm, specific answer, a value, a habit, a way of treating people, shows they feel like this family gave them something real to build on, not just rules to follow, which speaks to a solid sense of belonging.

If they mention something they're actively trying to keep or something they're trying to do differently, both are healthy signs, it means they're thoughtfully shaping their own identity rather than just copying or rejecting what they know.

If they draw a blank, you don't need to supply the answer for them, let the question sit, it might surface later without prompting.

What this tells you

What they credit to the family shows how much they feel their identity is rooted in belonging here, even as they become their own person.