Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old
The prompt
“Have you ever had to set a boundary with yourself about how much you let other people's opinions get to you?”
What to listen for
If they describe consciously deciding to care less about certain people's judgments, that's real internal strength, they need that self-protection named as a skill, not a coincidence.
If they admit they still struggle with this a lot, meet that honesty with warmth, not a pep talk, they need to feel understood in the struggle before any advice, if any, is welcome.
If they haven't thought about it that way, you could share how you've handled it yourself, briefly, modeling can open the door without making it feel like a lesson.
What this tells you
How they manage the pull of others' opinions shows you how sturdy their sense of self feels right now.