37 Questions to Ask Your Teenager About Rules

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Every rule feels like control at this age, and under every argument about rules there is one question that is rarely said out loud: do you trust me. That is what is actually being negotiated, and answering the surface question while ignoring that one is why the same argument happens forty times.

These questions make it negotiable instead of explosive. They ask which rules they think are reasonable, what they would have to do to earn more room, what they would enforce if they were the parent. That last kind reliably produces stricter answers than the parent expected, which is worth experiencing once.

They also ask about the rules they follow when nobody is checking, which is the only meaningful measure of whether a household runs on agreement or on surveillance.

Each question comes with what to listen for and what it tells you, including which answers are a genuine bid for more autonomy and which are a test to see whether the rule is real.

1. 1“Is there a rule of ours that actually makes more sense to you now than it used to?”

   What to listen for

   If they can name one, notice whether they explain it with a shrug ("I guess it makes sense") or with real understanding ("oh yeah, now I get why"). The second version means they're starting to internalize values rather than just following orders, which is a big marker of growing maturity.

   If they push back and say none of the rules make more sense, that's useful information too, it might mean a rule needs revisiting together, or it might just mean they're not ready to concede that point tonight, and that's okay.

   A quiet "I don't know" can mean they haven't thought about it that way before, you've just planted a seed, no need to force the harvest tonight.

   What this tells you

   This shows you whether they're starting to see the reasoning behind your rules as their own, which is a sign they feel respected enough to actually consider it rather than just comply or rebel.

   See this question on its own page (day 4)

2. 2“Where's the line for you between something being private and something being a secret?”

   What to listen for

   If they draw a clear distinction, private is "mine to share when I choose," secret is "something hidden because it's wrong or scary", that's a strong sign of healthy judgment forming, and it means they likely feel they can come to you with real problems even while keeping normal things to themselves.

   If they get defensive or say "why does it matter," that often means they feel like their privacy has been questioned or invaded before, and the question itself is landing as suspicion rather than curiosity, soften and reassure that you're not asking about anything specific.

   If they think out loud and land somewhere uncertain, that's actually great, it means they're wrestling with it honestly rather than reciting an answer.

   What this tells you

   This tells you how much they trust that their independence will be respected, and how much they feel their choices are genuinely their own to make.

   See this question on its own page (day 7)

3. 3“Was there ever a time you wished we'd just asked you instead of assuming something?”

   What to listen for

   If a specific memory comes up fast, that tells you it stuck with them, listen without getting defensive, because the goal here is understanding, not re-litigating who was right. Notice if the underlying theme is about being trusted, being seen as capable, or just being asked first as a matter of respect.

   If they say "not really" but seem to be thinking hard, give it space, sometimes it takes a minute to locate the memory, and rushing them to answer defeats the purpose.

   If they brush it off entirely, that's fine too; you can say "well, if one ever comes up, tell me" and leave the door open without pressing.

   What this tells you

   This tells you where they've felt unheard in the past, and reveals what they need most from you going forward: to be asked, not assumed about.

   See this question on its own page (day 9)

4. 4“How much of a heads-up do you actually want before a family plan changes?”

   What to listen for

   If they want a lot of notice, that likely means predictability helps them feel in control of their own time and choices, and last-minute changes feel like their autonomy is being overridden.

   If they say it doesn't really bother them, take that at face value rather than assuming they're just being agreeable, some teens genuinely are more flexible about scheduling than others.

   If they mention a specific time something changed and it stung, that's valuable, it tells you exactly where to be more careful in the future.

   What this tells you

   This tells you how much they need to feel like their time and plans are respected as genuinely theirs, not just slotted in around the family's.

   See this question on its own page (day 17)

5. 5“Have you ever had to set a boundary with a friend for the first time, like really tell them something?”

   What to listen for

   If they describe doing it, notice how it went and how they felt afterward, proud, relieved, guilty. That tells you how equipped they feel to protect their own needs in friendships, which is a skill that will only get more important with time.

   If it went badly or they're still unsure it was the right call, resist rushing to reassure or fix; ask what they wish had gone differently, and let them arrive at their own insight.

   If they've never had to do this, that's useful context too, it might mean their friendships haven't required it yet, or that boundary-setting still feels too scary to attempt.

   What this tells you

   This shows you how much they trust their own right to say no or ask for space, even with people they care about.

   See this question on its own page (day 31)

6. 6“How has what privacy means to you changed from a few years ago to now?”

   What to listen for

   If they describe wanting more control over their own space, thoughts, or online life, that's completely developmentally normal, it means they're building a private inner world, which is a healthy part of becoming their own person, not a red flag.

   If they mention a specific moment their privacy felt violated, however small, take that seriously and without defensiveness; it's valuable feedback about where trust needs rebuilding.

   If they say it hasn't really changed, that's fine too, not every teen experiences this the same way or at the same pace.

   What this tells you

   This tells you how their need for a separate, respected inner life has grown, and how much they need to feel that their personal space is genuinely theirs.

   See this question on its own page (day 41)

7. 7“If you could rewrite one house rule, which one would it be and why?”

   What to listen for

   Listen for whether their reasoning is about fairness, trust, or just convenience, a well-argued case usually means they've actually thought about this rule for a while, not just resenting it in the moment.

   If the rule they pick surprises you, that's valuable; it might reveal a rule that's outlived its original purpose, or one you never explained the reasoning behind.

   If they say "all of them" as a joke, laugh, but also follow up with "okay but if you had to pick just one" to get a real answer without turning it into a negotiation session.

   What this tells you

   This shows you exactly where they feel the rules and their own growing independence are most out of step right now.

   See this question on its own page (day 46)

8. 8“If we ever had to ask for your phone, how would you want us to handle that?”

   What to listen for

   Listen for whether they emphasize being told why, being given notice, or being treated with some dignity in the process, that tells you what would make an already-uncomfortable moment feel less like a punishment and more like a conversation.

   If they get defensive or assume this means something's about to happen, reassure them it's a general question, not a warning, and let them answer without feeling accused.

   If they say "I'd just want you to trust me first," take that seriously as their real ask, even if the practical answer is more nuanced than that.

   What this tells you

   This tells you how they want their dignity and trust preserved even in moments where you have to exercise authority over them.

   See this question on its own page (day 56)

9. 9“Was there a time saying no to someone felt way harder than it should have?”

   What to listen for

   If they share a specific moment, listen for who it was and what made it so hard, fear of disappointing someone, fear of conflict, fear of losing the friendship. That tells you exactly where their boundaries feel most fragile right now.

   If they seem proud they said no anyway, celebrate that specifically rather than generally, naming exactly what they did well reinforces that they can trust their own limits.

   If they say they ended up saying yes when they didn't want to, resist the urge to tell them what they should have done; instead ask how it felt afterward, which often teaches the lesson better than advice would.

   What this tells you

   This reveals how much they trust that their own limits are valid and worth defending, even when it risks upsetting someone else.

   See this question on its own page (day 61)

10. 10“After a really long day, what do you actually need from me, space, a snack, silence, something else?”

    What to listen for

    If they can name it clearly, "just leave me alone for twenty minutes" or "I want you to ask but not right away", that's them trusting you with real information about how they work, which is a gift, not a rejection.

    If they seem surprised anyone asked, or say "I don't know, I've never thought about it," that's fine, you've just planted the idea that their need for space is legitimate and worth naming.

    Either way, resist the urge to argue with their answer. The goal here is only to hear it, not negotiate it down.

    What this tells you

    Their answer tells you exactly how to make coming home feel safe instead of like another demand on them.

    See this question on its own page (day 64)

11. 11“Honestly, when I check in on you, does it usually feel like I'm checking in or checking up?”

    What to listen for

    A direct, honest answer here, even a slightly awkward one, means they feel safe telling you the truth about how your attention lands, which is exactly what you want them to feel free to do.

    If they say "it depends" or give an example, that's them handing you something specific and useful, not a complaint, take it as information, not a verdict on you as a parent.

    If they get quiet or say "I don't know," they might not want to risk hurting your feelings; you can lighten it by saying you really want to know, no wrong answer.

    What this tells you

    This tells you whether your attention currently feels like care or like surveillance to them, which shapes how much they'll keep telling you.

    See this question on its own page (day 66)

12. 12“Have you set any kind of limit for yourself around your phone or sleep that you're actually sticking to?”

    What to listen for

    If they describe a self-imposed rule, even a small one like "no phone after midnight", that's them showing you they can govern themselves, which deserves real credit, not a follow-up rule from you.

    If they admit they've tried and it hasn't stuck, that's honest self-awareness, not failure; the fact that they're willing to admit it to you is the win.

    If they get defensive or assume this is a lead-in to a lecture, keep your reaction light, the goal is to learn what they're already doing right, not to check up on them.

    What this tells you

    This shows you how much they want to be trusted to manage themselves before anyone else steps in.

    See this question on its own page (day 69)

13. 13“What's the difference to you between a rule that makes sense and one that just feels like control?”

    What to listen for

    If they can articulate a clear distinction, it means they're developing real judgment about authority and fairness, not just reacting against every rule on principle.

    If they bring up a specific rule of ours as an example, try to hear it as data rather than a personal attack, they're trusting you with something that could easily start a fight instead.

    If they say most rules feel like control, that's worth taking seriously without getting defensive; ask what would make a rule feel more like it makes sense to them.

    What this tells you

    This shows you whether they currently experience our rules as respect for them or as a lack of trust in them.

    See this question on its own page (day 91)

14. 14“Going forward, how do you want us to handle it when we disagree about curfew?”

    What to listen for

    If they come with actual ideas, more notice, a chance to make their case, something specific, it means they want to be part of the process, not just a rule that happens to them, which is a healthy, mature ask.

    If they get frustrated recalling a past curfew fight, let that land without immediately defending the old decision; you can revisit the reasoning separately once the emotion has settled.

    If they say they don't care, that might mean they've given up expecting input, worth gently checking whether that's really true.

    What this tells you

    This tells you how much say they want in decisions that affect their growing independence, and how ready they feel to be trusted with it.

    See this question on its own page (day 99)

15. 15“Has anyone crossed a line with you recently, and how did you end up handling it?”

    What to listen for

    If they tell the story and describe standing up for themselves, it means they're building real confidence in protecting their own limits, which deserves clear, specific praise.

    If they describe freezing or not knowing how to respond in the moment, resist criticizing that reaction, freezing is normal, and naming it out loud afterward is already a form of processing it well.

    If they seem reluctant to share details, don't push for specifics; just make clear you're glad they're thinking about it and you're available if they want to talk more.

    What this tells you

    This shows you how equipped they currently feel to protect their own boundaries when someone oversteps.

    See this question on its own page (day 114)

16. 16“What do you wish I actually got about you wanting your door closed sometimes?”

    What to listen for

    A teen who can explain this clearly is telling you they need privacy to feel like a whole person, not because they're hiding something, but because having an unwatched space is part of growing up. That's not rejection of you, it's them building a self.

    If they get defensive or short, that might mean they've felt judged for wanting space before, and they're bracing for you to argue back. Try not to. If they shut the conversation down fast, let it go, sometimes the closed door itself is the answer, and that's okay.

    What you're really listening for is whether they feel like their need for space gets treated as normal in this house, or like something they have to fight for.

    What this tells you

    How easily they can talk about this shows you whether their need for privacy feels safe to name out loud or like something they've had to defend before.

    See this question on its own page (day 124)

17. 17“How much do you actually want me involved when it comes to your friendships?”

    What to listen for

    A clear, confident answer, even if it's "not much", means they trust you enough to be honest about the boundary they want, and honoring it is how you prove that trust was well placed. Don't take a request for less involvement as rejection; it's a normal part of them owning their own social world.

    If they say they want more input from you, that's valuable too, some teens want a sounding board even while pulling away in other areas, and that mix is completely normal.

    If they're unsure, that's fine, you can just say you'll follow their lead and check back in sometime, without turning it into a bigger negotiation than it needs to be.

    What this tells you

    Their answer shows you exactly how much room they need from you right now to navigate their own social world, and trusting that number is how you keep the door open for later.

    See this question on its own page (day 135)

18. 18“Is there a boundary you held onto even when it felt uncomfortable, that you're proud of?”

    What to listen for

    A confident answer here is huge, it means they've practiced standing up for themselves and it worked, which builds the exact kind of self-trust that keeps them safe later in bigger moments. Celebrate this specifically and genuinely.

    If they downplay it, or say it wasn't a big deal, gently point out that it actually was, teens often underrate their own wins in this area.

    If nothing comes to mind, you might mention a small moment you noticed yourself, framed as admiration, not as a quiz they failed.

    What this tells you

    This story shows you they're building the muscle of trusting their own limits, and how much they need your visible pride in that rather than just your protection.

    See this question on its own page (day 138)

19. 19“What should 'giving you space' actually look like day to day, in your opinion?”

    What to listen for

    A concrete, specific answer here is a gift, it means they trust you enough to actually tell you the rules instead of just being frustrated when you get it wrong. Take notes mentally, and actually try to follow them.

    If they say something like "just knock first" or "don't read over my shoulder," these small asks matter more than they sound, respecting them is how trust actually gets built day to day, not through big gestures.

    If they seem unsure how to put it into words, ask for one specific example instead of a general rule, that's often easier to answer.

    What this tells you

    Their answer is a practical map of what respect looks like to them specifically, and following it is how you prove their independence is safe with you.

    See this question on its own page (day 148)

20. 20“If you made a decision I didn't agree with, how would you want me to react?”

    What to listen for

    A thoughtful answer here is them essentially telling you how to keep their trust intact during disagreement, usually they're asking for calm, for being heard before being corrected, which is really a request to feel respected even when you don't approve. Take this seriously as real guidance, not just a hypothetical.

    If they mention wanting you to just listen first before reacting, that's a completely reasonable and common ask, it doesn't mean they expect you to agree with everything, just that they want to be heard.

    If they seem unsure or say "however you'd normally react," that might be a gentle signal that reactions in the past have felt unpredictable, worth reflecting on quietly rather than asking them to elaborate on the spot.

    What this tells you

    Their answer is basically a playbook for how to stay close to them even when you disagree, and shows how much they need to feel like their judgment is trusted, not just tolerated.

    See this question on its own page (day 159)

21. 21“Was there ever a rule at a friend's house that totally surprised you?”

    What to listen for

    A lively answer here is usually just fun, low-stakes territory, teens love comparing households, and it's a great way to talk about differences in family rules without it becoming about your own rules specifically. Enjoy the story for what it is.

    If they mention a rule that seems stricter or looser than yours, resist immediately defending your own household's approach, just let the comparison exist without needing to win it.

    If they seem hesitant to answer honestly, that might mean past conversations like this turned into debates about fairness, try to keep tonight light.

    What this tells you

    This kind of story shows you how they're quietly comparing and evaluating different ways of living, which is a normal and healthy part of forming their own sense of what's fair.

    See this question on its own page (day 165)

22. 22“Is there something that feels like an invasion of privacy to you that we might not even notice we're doing?”

    What to listen for

    A specific answer here is valuable and vulnerable, it means they trust you enough to name something that's actually bothered them, rather than just resenting it silently. Thank them for saying it rather than immediately defending the habit.

    If it's something small, like checking their phone over their shoulder or reading a text out loud, take it seriously even if it seems minor to you, small invasions add up to a big feeling of not being trusted.

    If they hesitate or downplay it after saying it, that might mean they're worried about your reaction, reassure them with your tone that you're glad they told you, not annoyed.

    What this tells you

    Whatever they name shows you exactly where they feel their independence is being quietly undermined, and fixing it is a direct way to show their trust in you was worth it.

    See this question on its own page (day 170)

23. 23“How do you decide what's okay to share about yourself online versus what you keep private?”

    What to listen for

    A thoughtful answer shows they're actually developing real judgment about their own digital footprint, that's a skill you want to trust them to keep building, not something to take over for them. Ask with real curiosity, not as a lead-in to a lecture about safety.

    If their reasoning sounds solid, tell them so specifically, validating their judgment here builds the exact kind of self-trust that keeps them making good calls when you're not watching.

    If they seem unsure or say they don't really think about it much, that's useful to know gently, but resist turning tonight into a full safety talk, a lighter follow-up another time works better than a lecture right now.

    What this tells you

    How they reason through this shows you how much independent judgment they've already built around their own digital life, and how much they need you to trust that judgment rather than override it.

    See this question on its own page (day 173)

24. 24“Was there ever a time you had to tell a friend to back off a little?”

    What to listen for

    A confident answer here shows real growth, being able to set a limit with a friend and survive the discomfort of it builds exactly the kind of self-trust they'll need in every relationship going forward. Praise the courage in it, not just the outcome.

    If the story involves some awkwardness or fallout, that's normal and worth acknowledging honestly rather than promising it always works out smoothly.

    If they say it's never happened, that's fine too, some friendships just haven't required it yet, and that doesn't mean they lack the skill.

    What this tells you

    This story shows you they're learning to protect their own limits even when it's socially uncomfortable, which is a skill worth naming and encouraging.

    See this question on its own page (day 176)

25. 25“Is there some kind of independence you feel ready for that we haven't actually offered you yet?”

    What to listen for

    If they answer directly and specifically, a later curfew, managing their own schedule, more say in a decision, they trust that naming what they want won't get shut down, which means they feel safe advocating for themselves with you.

    If they hesitate or downplay it, they might assume you'll say no before they even finish the sentence. Try responding with real consideration rather than an instant answer, even if it's a no for now.

    A "not really, I'm good" can be genuine contentment or a way of avoiding a conversation that feels risky, either way, leave the door open for later.

    What this tells you

    What independence they name, or avoid naming, shows you how much control over their own life they feel is currently missing.

    See this question on its own page (day 194)

26. 26“How would you explain the difference between a rule and actual trust?”

    What to listen for

    If they articulate that trust is earned and rules exist until it is, they understand the relationship between freedom and responsibility, and are likely ready to be given more of the latter as they demonstrate the former.

    If they argue rules feel like a lack of trust regardless of reasoning, that's worth hearing out fully, it may point to wanting more credit for the trust they feel they've already earned.

    A cynical "rules are just about control" deserves a genuine, non-defensive conversation, not a correction, they may have a point somewhere in there.

    What this tells you

    How they distinguish rules from trust shows how much autonomy they currently feel they've earned versus still need to prove.

    See this question on its own page (day 217)

27. 27“Was there a moment you wanted way more freedom, and a moment you actually wanted less?”

    What to listen for

    If they can name both, they have a nuanced, honest relationship with independence, wanting more control in some areas while still valuing structure in others, which shows real self-awareness.

    If they only name wanting more freedom, that's developmentally normal at this age, no need to push them to find a counterexample.

    If they mention wanting less freedom somewhere, listen closely and without surprise, it might mean a specific situation felt like too much responsibility, and they need to know it's okay to ask for support.

    What this tells you

    The moments they name on both sides of freedom show you where they currently feel ready to lead and where they still want you close.

    See this question on its own page (day 225)

28. 28“When you're clearly not in the mood to talk, what do you actually need from us in that moment?”

    What to listen for

    If they can articulate something specific, space, no questions, just to be left alone for a bit, they trust that naming this need will actually be respected, not overridden by worry or persistence.

    If they say "I don't know, just don't push," take that at face value as the real answer rather than a dodge, it's a completely valid boundary.

    A slightly defensive tone here isn't a rejection of you, it may just mean this need hasn't felt fully honored before, which is worth quietly correcting going forward.

    What this tells you

    What they ask for when they're shut down shows you exactly what they need to feel safe having their own moods without being chased.

    See this question on its own page (day 238)

29. 29“Do you like it better when I just ask you something out of nowhere, or when I give you a heads-up first, like "hey, can I ask you something later"?”

    What to listen for

    If they prefer a heads-up, that tells you they need a little control over when they open up, being caught off guard can feel like their privacy is being tested rather than respected.

    If they say it doesn't matter or they like spontaneous better, that's a sign they feel pretty relaxed and safe in how you two talk already.

    Either answer is a gift, it's literally them telling you how to make future conversations easier, so take it seriously and actually adjust.

    What this tells you

    Their preference here shows how much say they want over the timing of being asked about their inner world, which is really about feeling in control of their own privacy.

    See this question on its own page (day 256)

30. 30“Has there been a money thing you've had to figure out on your own, like saving up or deciding what's worth spending on?”

    What to listen for

    A specific story about saving for something or regretting an impulse buy shows they're building their own relationship with money, which is a meaningful piece of growing independence.

    If they mention comparing themselves to friends who have more or spend more freely, that's worth taking seriously and gently, without turning it into a lesson about gratitude.

    If they haven't had to think about it much yet, that's fine too, it just means this kind of independence is still ahead of them.

    What this tells you

    How they talk about money decisions shows how much ownership they feel over choices that are genuinely theirs to make.

    See this question on its own page (day 272)

31. 31“When we correct you about something, what actually makes it feel respectful instead of just like getting scolded?”

    What to listen for

    If they mention tone, privacy, or being asked rather than told, that tells you exactly how to deliver correction in a way that keeps their dignity intact, take this as literal instructions, not just venting.

    If they say timing matters, like not in front of friends or siblings, that's a boundary worth honoring carefully going forward.

    If they say nothing really helps, that's worth taking seriously too, it might mean the content of the correction feels less like the problem than the pattern around it.

    What this tells you

    What makes correction feel respectful to them shows how much dignity and voice they need to feel preserved, even when they're being told they're wrong.

    See this question on its own page (day 294)

32. 32“What's the best way for us to give you feedback so it doesn't feel like we're just attacking you?”

    What to listen for

    A specific answer, like leading with something positive first, or just being direct instead of hinting, is genuinely useful information, and taking it seriously shows them their input actually shapes how you treat them.

    If they mention needing space before or after feedback, that's a real boundary worth respecting, not something to push past because you're eager to talk it through.

    If they say they don't know, you can offer a couple of options and let them react, since sometimes it's easier to recognize the right approach than to invent it from scratch.

    What this tells you

    How they want feedback delivered shows how much they need to feel respected as a whole person, not just corrected as a behavior.

    See this question on its own page (day 296)

33. 33“Has there been a time you had to protect your own time because too many people wanted a piece of it?”

    What to listen for

    A confident story about saying no or stepping back shows real growth in valuing their own time and energy as something worth protecting, not something owed to everyone who asks.

    If they describe feeling guilty about it, that's worth gently affirming, protecting their time doesn't make them selfish, and hearing that from you matters.

    If they say this hasn't happened yet, that's fine, it just means this particular kind of boundary-setting is still ahead of them.

    What this tells you

    How they protect their own time shows how much they're learning that their time and energy are genuinely their own to guard.

    See this question on its own page (day 302)

34. 34“Beyond the actual door, what does "knocking first" mean to you when it comes to your stuff, your space, your business?”

    What to listen for

    If they talk about being asked before assumptions are made, about their phone, their friendships, their choices, they need to feel that their inner world is treated as theirs to open, not something to be walked into.

    If they mention a specific time that boundary was crossed, listen without getting defensive, they need to know naming it won't cause a fight, it'll be taken seriously.

    If they say it's not a big deal, take that at face value for now, but keep the door open for later, some things take a few tries to say out loud.

    What this tells you

    What "knocking first" means to them shows you how much they need their own space to be genuinely respected, not just physically but emotionally.

    See this question on its own page (day 320)

35. 35“When we say no to something, how much explanation do you actually want from us, versus just wanting us to trust you with less back-and-forth?”

    What to listen for

    If they want more explanation, that's not defiance, they need to feel like a reasoning partner, not someone being managed, and giving that respect actually builds their trust in your judgment.

    If they say they don't need a whole explanation, just a fair reason and to be done with it, that tells you they crave efficiency and respect more than debate, worth honoring literally next time.

    If they say it depends on the situation, that nuance is worth exploring a little further, different nos might call for different approaches.

    What this tells you

    How much explanation they want for a no shows you exactly how they want to be trusted as they get older.

    See this question on its own page (day 331)

36. 36“Have you ever had to set a boundary with yourself about how much you let other people's opinions get to you?”

    What to listen for

    If they describe consciously deciding to care less about certain people's judgments, that's real internal strength, they need that self-protection named as a skill, not a coincidence.

    If they admit they still struggle with this a lot, meet that honesty with warmth, not a pep talk, they need to feel understood in the struggle before any advice, if any, is welcome.

    If they haven't thought about it that way, you could share how you've handled it yourself, briefly, modeling can open the door without making it feel like a lesson.

    What this tells you

    How they manage the pull of others' opinions shows you how sturdy their sense of self feels right now.

    See this question on its own page (day 335)

37. 37“Is there a rule that changes as kids get older that feels overdue for you specifically?”

    What to listen for

    If they name something specific with a clear reason, that's a sign they're ready to advocate for themselves respectfully, treat that case-making as a skill worth encouraging, even if you don't grant it immediately.

    If they seem hesitant to bring anything up, reassure them that naming it isn't the same as automatically getting it, they need to know it's safe to ask without it turning into a fight.

    If they can't think of anything, that's a sign the current rules feel roughly right to them, which is worth knowing too.

    What this tells you

    What rule feels overdue to change shows you exactly where they're ready for more trust and independence.

    See this question on its own page (day 346)