Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old
The prompt
“Beyond the actual door, what does "knocking first" mean to you when it comes to your stuff, your space, your business?”
What to listen for
If they talk about being asked before assumptions are made, about their phone, their friendships, their choices, they need to feel that their inner world is treated as theirs to open, not something to be walked into.
If they mention a specific time that boundary was crossed, listen without getting defensive, they need to know naming it won't cause a fight, it'll be taken seriously.
If they say it's not a big deal, take that at face value for now, but keep the door open for later, some things take a few tries to say out loud.
What this tells you
What "knocking first" means to them shows you how much they need their own space to be genuinely respected, not just physically but emotionally.