Tonight with your 9 to 12 year old

The prompt

“How has your bedtime routine changed as you've gotten older, and how do you feel about it?”

What to listen for

If they describe the changes with satisfaction, they're feeling their growing maturity reflected in real, tangible ways, that's exactly what should be happening at this age.

If they say it hasn't changed much and they wish it would, they're signaling they feel a bit behind where they think they should be, worth a real conversation about what's next.

If they seem indifferent, that's fine too, not every routine change carries deep meaning for every kid.

What this tells you

This shows you whether they feel their growing independence is being recognized in the small daily details, not just in big moments.