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Tonight with your 9 to 12 year old

The prompt

“Was there ever a time a really small gesture from someone meant a lot more to you than they probably realized?”

What to listen for

If they can name something tiny, a note, someone saving them a seat, a small check-in, that shows they notice and deeply value being thought of, even in small ways, more than big gestures.

Listen for whether they ever told that person it mattered, if not, this could be a nice nudge toward them expressing appreciation, which builds their own confidence in showing gratitude.

If nothing comes to mind right away, give them a minute; small moments like this are often not top of mind until they're asked directly.

What this tells you

This shows you how much a small, thoughtful gesture from someone can make them feel truly seen.

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