Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old

The prompt

“Is there a time our whole family really pulled together that's stuck with you?”

What to listen for

If a specific memory comes up fast, that's a strong sign they feel like this family is a team they can count on, hold onto that story, it's doing real work for their sense of security. Let them tell the details even if you remember it differently.

If they mention a harder moment, like a crisis or loss, rather than something happy, that's still meaningful, sometimes the toughest times are exactly when belonging gets proven.

If nothing comes to mind right away, give it a beat, this one sometimes needs a second to surface.

What this tells you

This memory shows you what "family" concretely means to them, and reassures you they've internalized this as a place that shows up for each other.