Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old

The prompt

“What makes you feel the most playful and unguarded, like you're not watching yourself at all?”

What to listen for

A clear, easy answer shows where they feel completely free to be themselves without performing for anyone, that's a valuable thing to protect and make more room for, whatever it is. Let them describe it without analyzing why it works.

If their answer involves specific people, that tells you those relationships are doing something important, helping them feel safe enough to drop the mask entirely.

If they need a minute to think, that's fine, this one can take a beat, since it asks them to notice something they usually just feel without naming.

What this tells you

This shows you exactly where and with whom they feel truly free to be themselves, which is worth protecting and encouraging more of.