Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old
The prompt
“Was there a moment you felt genuinely proud to be part of this family?”
What to listen for
Listen for whether the moment involves something you did as a unit, showing up for someone, handling something hard together, celebrating something, because that tells you when "family" feels most real and worth belonging to for them.
If they mention something surprising, like a moment you didn't think was a big deal, that's valuable; it shows you what actually registers to them versus what you assume matters.
If nothing comes to mind right away, give it space rather than filling the silence, sometimes the memory surfaces a beat later once they stop feeling like they need to perform an answer.
What this tells you
This shows you exactly when belonging to this family feels most meaningful to them, which is worth protecting and repeating.