Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old
The prompt
“Is there something on your bucket list that's been there for years and just won't go away?”
What to listen for
A quick, sure answer shows a stable, long-held dream that matters enough to survive years of changing interests, that kind of persistence is a strong signal of what genuinely calls to them.
If they seem almost surprised realizing how long they've wanted it, that's a great moment to just let them sit with that realization rather than jumping to plan how to make it happen.
If nothing comes to mind, that's fine too, some dreams are still forming and haven't had time to become bucket-list-sturdy yet.
What this tells you
A long-standing bucket list item shows what dream has been quietly, consistently important to them, regardless of passing trends.