Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old
The prompt
“Is there something you believe in strongly that you picked up from someone outside our family?”
What to listen for
If they name a person and a specific value, it means they're actively building their own worldview from multiple sources, not just absorbing ours passively, that's independent thinking taking shape.
If they credit a friend, coach, or even a stranger, take it as good news rather than a competition, it means they're paying attention to good examples wherever they find them.
If they can't think of anything, you might mention someone you've noticed influencing them and see if that jogs something loose.
What this tells you
This tells you who else is shaping their values and gives you a window into the wider world they're drawing from.