Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old

The prompt

“Do you think being the oldest, the middle, or the youngest actually shaped who you are?”

What to listen for

If they have a clear theory about it, that's them doing real self-reflection about their place in the family story, which is worth taking seriously even if it sounds like a joke at first.

If they mention feeling overlooked, over-relied-on, or compared to a sibling, stay curious instead of jumping to defend the family setup, that reaction is what actually happened for them, and it matters more than whether it seems fair from the outside.

If they shrug it off, it might just not feel like a big factor to them, and that's a fine answer too.

What this tells you

This shows you how their position in the family has quietly shaped their sense of identity and where they feel they fit.