Tonight with your 9 to 12 year old

The prompt

“Was there ever a time you were tempted to gossip about a friend but didn't?”

What to listen for

If they can describe resisting the pull to talk about someone behind their back, that's a real sign of integrity forming, especially because gossip often feels socially rewarding in the moment, name that restraint specifically.

If they admit they've gossiped and regretted it, don't lecture; ask what they'd do differently if that moment came back around.

If they say "I don't know," ask about a time they heard something about a friend and had to decide whether to repeat it.

What this tells you

This tells you how loyalty holds up for them even when talking about someone would be the easier, more entertaining choice.