Tonight with your 9 to 12 year old

The prompt

“Tell me about a moment of teamwork that made you feel really proud.”

What to listen for

If they light up telling this story, it usually means being a valued part of something bigger than themselves feels great to them, that's worth creating more chances for, whether in sports, school projects, or family tasks.

Notice whether the pride comes from their specific contribution or from the group succeeding together, that tells you whether they're more motivated by personal recognition or by shared success.

If nothing comes to mind, ask about a team or group project that felt disappointing instead, the contrast often reveals what good teamwork means to them.

What this tells you

This shows how much being a valued part of a team feeds their sense of pride and belonging.