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Tonight with your 9 to 12 year old

The prompt

“How does our family usually handle it when people disagree at the dinner table?”

What to listen for

Listen for whether their description sounds calm and resolvable or tense and unresolved, this is really them reporting back on the emotional climate of the house, which is worth hearing honestly.

If they mention feeling scared or wanting to leave the table during disagreements, take that seriously and gently, since it points to needing more feeling of safety during conflict, not just at peaceful times.

If they describe it positively, ask what makes it feel okay, their answer might show you exactly what's working so you can keep doing it.

What this tells you

This reveals how safe conflict actually feels to them inside the family, which shapes how they'll handle disagreements everywhere else.

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