Tonight with your 9 to 12 year old

The prompt

“Was there a time being generous actually cost you something, but you did it anyway?”

What to listen for

A specific story told with some pride shows generosity isn't just something they perform for approval, it's becoming a real part of how they see themselves.

If they describe hesitating first before deciding to be generous, that's actually a healthy, honest detail, real generosity often does involve a moment of genuine reluctance, and it's worth naming that as normal.

If they can't think of an example, ask about a time someone was generous with them instead, sometimes reflecting on receiving it first opens the door to remembering giving it.

What this tells you

This shows you whether generosity is becoming a real value for your child, not just a nice idea.