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Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old

The prompt

“Was there a moment recently where you surprised yourself with how calm you stayed, when you expected to freak out?”

What to listen for

A proud retelling of staying steady under pressure shows they're building real confidence in their own ability to handle hard moments, which matters more than any specific outcome.

If they mention a strategy they used, breathing, stepping away, talking to someone, that's worth genuinely admiring; it means they're developing tools that are truly their own.

If nothing comes to mind, you could mention a moment you noticed them handle well, sometimes they need someone else to point out their own growth before they can see it.

What this tells you

A moment of unexpected calm shows how much quiet confidence they're building in their own ability to handle whatever comes.

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