Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old

The prompt

“Has there been a moment where you were kind of embarrassed by us, but underneath it you were actually proud we're your family?”

What to listen for

A laughing, honest yes shows a really healthy relationship with the family, they can hold two feelings at once, embarrassment and pride, without either one canceling the other out.

If they describe the specific moment, enjoy it together rather than getting defensive about whatever the embarrassing part was, the pride underneath is the real gift here.

If they say no, never embarrassed, that's lovely too, though slightly rare, either way, there's no wrong answer to receive warmly.

What this tells you

Pride outlasting embarrassment shows how solid their sense of belonging to this family really is, even when it's imperfect or awkward.