Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old
The prompt
“Have you ever stayed friends with someone after a real falling out, like an actual big blowup?”
What to listen for
If they describe repairing a friendship after real conflict, that's evidence they know relationships can survive hard moments, they need that resilience named, because it's a skill, not luck.
If they talk about a friendship that didn't survive, listen for whether they sound at peace or still hurt, either way, they need to know both endings and repairs are normal parts of friendship, not failures.
If they say this hasn't happened yet, ask what they think it would take to get through something like that, imagining it counts too.
What this tells you
How they've repaired or lost a friendship after conflict shows you how much they believe relationships are worth fighting for.