Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old
The prompt
“When's the last time laughing with someone felt completely effortless?”
What to listen for
If they can picture the moment easily and describe it, it means they have at least one relationship right now that feels genuinely light and easy, without performance or pressure, that's a great sign.
If they mention someone you don't know much about, stay curious rather than quizzing them on details; the goal is just knowing that person exists for them.
If they struggle to think of a recent one, that's worth noticing gently, it might mean lightness has been in short supply lately, not that anything is wrong.
What this tells you
This tells you where they're currently finding real ease and joy, and with whom.