Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old
The prompt
“Do you feel like your patience has changed at all over the last couple years?”
What to listen for
If they can articulate a real shift, more patient with some things, less with others, it means they're tracking their own emotional growth, which is a sign of real self-awareness.
If they mention getting more impatient with certain people or situations, don't take it personally even if it's about home; it's more about them figuring out their limits than about anyone doing something wrong.
If they say they haven't noticed a change, you could gently offer an observation of your own, framed as curiosity rather than correction.
What this tells you
This shows you how their capacity to tolerate frustration and wait things out has evolved as they've matured.