Tonight with your 13 to 17 year old
The prompt
“Is there a hobby you kind of fell into by accident that actually stuck with you?”
What to listen for
If they describe how it started almost randomly, it means they're open to trying things without needing a plan first, and that openness led somewhere genuinely their own.
If they talk about it with real enthusiasm, that's them showing you a piece of identity they built with zero pressure from anyone, worth genuine interest, not just polite nodding.
If they say nothing's really stuck, that's fine; you can ask what they've tried lately just to keep the door open without pressure.
What this tells you
This tells you what unplanned, low-pressure exploration has turned into something that's genuinely theirs.