Tonight with your 9 to 12 year old
The prompt
“Is there something you believe that you know not everyone agrees with?”
What to listen for
A clear, confident answer shows they're comfortable holding their own opinion even against the crowd, that's real independence of thought forming, and it deserves respect even if you disagree.
If they seem nervous sharing it, reassure them this is a completely safe space for it, kids sometimes test controversial-feeling opinions with parents before anyone else.
If they say they don't have any opinions like that, gently offer a lighthearted example of your own to show that disagreeing with the crowd is normal and okay.
What this tells you
This shows whether they feel safe having and voicing their own mind, even when it's different from the group.