Tonight with your 5 to 8 year old
The prompt
“After you and your brother or sister have a big fight, how do you usually end up making up?”
What to listen for
If they describe a real process (a hug, a joke, playing together again), that shows they already have tools for repair, which matters more than never fighting at all. Celebrate that skill explicitly.
If they say they don't really make up, or it just fades away, that's useful, maybe a small ritual for making up would help both of them.
If they blame the sibling entirely, gently ask what their own part usually looks like too.
What this tells you
How they repair with a sibling shows you how equipped they feel to fix relationships instead of just avoiding conflict.